Compliance - LAING

"The component we wish to separate
off for the moment is the initial compliance with the other person's
intentions or expectations for one's self, or what are felt to be the
other person's intentions or expectations. This usually amounts to
an excess of being 'good', never doing anything other than what
one is told, never being 'a trouble', never asserting or even betraying
any counter-will of one's own. Being good is not, however,
done out of any positive desire on the individual's own part to do
the things that are said by others to be good, but is a negative conformity
to a standard that is the other's standard and not one's
own, and is prompted by the dread of what might happen if one
were to be oneself in actuality. This compliance is partly, therefore,
a betrayal of one's own true possibilities, but it is also a technique
of concealing and preserving one's own true possibilities,
which, however, risk never becoming translated into actualities
if they are entirely concentrated in an inner self for whom
all things are possible in imagination but nothing is possible in
fact."

"One of the aspects of the compliance of the false self that is most
clear is the fear implied by this compliance. The fear in it is evident,
for why else would anyone act, not according to his intentions, but
according to another person's ? Hatred is also necessarily present,
for what else is the adequate object of hatred except that which
endangers one's self?"

*What if you know that you hate yourself, and do not wish to change that in fear of losing everything you have identified yourself with. Everything that has given you the power, strength. What if your hatred towards yourself really that good enough to stand strong next to the "misery". What if then?


"This hatred, however, is revealed in another way which is quite
compatible, up to a point, with sanity. There is a tendency for the
false self to assume more and more of the characteristics of the
person or persons upon whom its compliance is based. This assumption
of the other person's characteristics may come to amount to
an almost total impersonation of the other. The hatred of the impersonation
becomes evident when the impersonation begins to turn
into a caricature." - FUCKING HILLARIOUS!!


"He, in fact, evoked from others the feelings he had towards his father
but was unable to express directly to his face. Instead, he produced
what amounted to a satirical comment on his father through the
medium of a compulsive caricature of him." 5 stars